In my journey to become a great and inspirational Life Coach, I spend a lot of time listening to, researching, reading, and learning from the greats. By the greats, I mean Brendon Burchard, Mastin Kipp, Tony Robbins, Robin Sharma, etc. I love each and every one of these writers. I listen to them and read their work so much that I feel like I know them. Right now, if you were to ask me if I can meet anyone, it would probably be Brendon Burchard. I just finished reading The Charge and I just received The Motivation Manifesto in the mail. I listen to his podcasts everyday, especially while I am working out at the gym. Check them out, they are called "The Charged Life Podcast."
I feel like I think and interpret life just like these men. One thing that I have always had, for as long as I can remember is perspective.
Throughout everything I went through in life, the good, the bad, the stressful, the embarrasing, the successes, the mistakes, the accomplishments, the wins, the loses...I made sure to remember what it FELT LIKE.
How the situation made me feel, right at the moment it was happening. Remembering how the situation made me feel has allowed me to remember situations more intensely. However, even more importantly it has helped me to LEARN from them more intensely.
I believe this is the #1 ingredient for a successful life coach. You have to have an in-depth knowledge about how situations make people feel. All of the men I listed above seem to have this trait. Their descriptions of certain situations, life experiences is something to behold.
They all have perspective. They do not view things simply as face value. They know the strength of the mind, and how each situation can make you feel and how it can be interpreted to aid success and happiness.
As a Life Coach for youth, both "typically developing" and also for special needs youth, I am able to use this perspective about my childhood, my life, my experiences to help them. When they talk to me about something that made them feel down, I am able to speak to them about similar situations that I went through.
Have you ever heard for the Freudian theory of "ego"? When we are young, we truly believe the world revolves around us. My belief is that this NEVER really goes away. Especially today, there are more and more people who are self-centered and do not display appropriate "Theory of Mind."
For youth, this is always true. I have worked with several kids who are "wise beyond their years" and also have an "old compassionate soul." However, this ego is always there.
When you are young, you feel like every difficult situation is the end of the world....but little do you know it is just the beginning.
Sometimes when you work with youth, you simply have to remind them how young they are! Yes, it sounds silly, but sometimes being reminded that you still have so much life to live, so much time to learn, so much more TIME, it can be one of the most comforting things you can hear.
Keeping perspective is key in the field of Life Coaching. However, it is also a very helpful exercise for healthy living.
This is a great exercise for you to try. Next time you go through a situation, take a minute break to make sure you remember how you feel.
If it is a positive experience, close your eyes for 1 minute. Say to yourself, "I want to remember this." It is basically a short form of meditation. Make sure you remember how your head feels, your body feels, your heart feels. When you open your mind, take in the surroundings. Make sure you remember how happy you are, and exactly how you FEEL. Next time you go through a rough patch, thinking of this time can be very comforting. Getting back to that state can be a new goal.
If it is a negative experience. Take a few deep breaths to clear your mind. Close your eyes and talk to yourself a bit. Give yourself a little review, a little synopsis of what is going on. Tell yourself what happened, what may have caused it, who is involved, and exactly how you feel. One thing that could also add to is....take a selfie. Seriously. Take a picture of yourself when you are at a low point. The look on your face, the stress in your eyes, the obvious sadness. This will be something you will be able to look back on. When you are going through a new better time (which WILL happen, after rain always comes sun), you can look back on this picture. You can instantly remind yourself how bad things were at that moment. This can help you enjoy your new positivity even more. A few years later, when you are going through another rough time, you can look at the picture and remind yourself how bad things were, but you got through it and it passed. Time heals all wounds. This new bad time will pass too...
Perspective is key to enjoying the fine things in life, and remembering how you got through the bad times. However, you must make sure you are not living in the past and constantly looking in the rear view mirror.
You know all you've been through, but the best has yet to come. You are still Growing Now.
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