Sunday, June 28, 2015

The Grow NOW Life Cleanse: The Next 3 Steps

Creating this blog has been one of the greatest decisions of my life. A best friend, mentor, and future business partner persuaded me to do it. Writing these posts and sharing them with any awesome person who decides to take the time to read it means everything to me. I could never imagine that I would enjoy blogging as much as I do with Grow NOW.

As I have discussed in my previous posts, I am an individual who has made a lifetime of mistakes. A complete fool some would say. Elementary school, middle school, high school, college, work... everything I did was to please other people, to try and "fit in." Every friend I had didn't give a crap about me, and I had achieved NOTHING to help advance my life.

It wasn't until graduate school when I began to excel at something I was passionate about and I was motivated by that same best friend, that I began to be ME. For the first time EVER!

I was able to learn from my mistakes and become from the best individual I had ever been. I began to do things on a daily basis that made me happy, proud, and successful. Looking back, it was the first time in my life I had felt those feelings for what they truly are.

There is a question I want everyone who reads this blog to ask themselves:
"Can you remember who you were before people told you who you ought to be?" 

THAT is what Grow NOW is all about. 

I believe there are few things more sad on this earth than when an individual turns away from what makes them unique. Nothing more tragic than wasted talents.

I firmly believe that all people are born UNIQUE INDIVIDUALS

Every person is different in their own way. Every person has their own strengths & weaknesses, likes & dislikes, talents & passions.

Every person on this earth has ONE THING they can do better than EVERYONE ELSE.

Which is the foundation for my premise: ANYONE CAN BE GREAT!

In life, we are all unique individuals. We have a set purpose in life: one specific way that we can work with our passions and thrive happily. We work ambitiously toward that goal until it is achieved. Until.... 

So we are born unique individuals.....and then what happens?


Distractions are all around us. We live in a world full of distractions.

We are all unique individuals until we are changed by the distractions.

Self-doubt, self-consciousness, popularity, standards, superficiality, friends, television, cell-phones, facebook, instagram, snapchat, cell phones, twitter, alcohol, drugs, the past, hindsight, fear.

Just to name A FEW.

All of us are born unique individuals. We all begin life believing in ourselves and have no self-doubt. We are on the road to becoming the person we are MEANT TO BECOME.

Until the distractions begin. 

Everything that you do during the course of your day is a DECISION. A CHOICE.

Everything you do that is keeping you from achieving your dreams, or simply not aiding that a DISTRACTION.

If you are wasting your time on social media. If you are wasting your time doubting yourself. If you are wasting your time getting high. If you are wasting your time dwelling on the past. If you are wasting your time trying to please others.


You are holding yourself back from achieving your goals and Growing NOW.

You are not being the person you were meant to be.

You are being who the distractions have made you.

This is why I created the Grow NOW Life Cleanse.

The Grow NOW Life Cleanse is EXACTLY what I used to cleanse my life of distractions.

It is one of the greatest things I ever did.

I FINALLY became the person I was meant to become. I believed in myself. I was not tempted by others. I did WHAT I WANTED TO...on a daily basis! I started to make the right kind of friends. I made myself and my family much more happy and proud than ever before.

With the Grow NOW blog...I get to share my life cleanse with you. I want others to learn from my mistakes, so that they are able to Grow NOW instead of later. Achieve their dreams sooner than they ever could have imagined.

Realize how AMAZING you are, instead of how different you are. Realize how talented you are instead of how weak you are. Realize you are worthy of your dreams.


The Grow NOW Life Cleanse: The Next 3-Steps     

The First 5-Steps

6) Exercise at least three days a week.  

Science certainly has my back on this one. 

There is scientific proof that when an individual exercises, their brain functions more efficiently, and  you will have more energy to complete other tasks throughout your day.

Exercise is a very interesting thing. You can see it clearly these days with things like Crossfit, instagram pictures, and the multi-billion dollar businesses that are GNC, Vitamin Shoppe, protein shakes, Gold's Gym, 24-Hour Fitness, Retro Fitness, Planet Fitness, YMCA, Synergy, etc.

The thing about fitness that nobody wants to admit: it takes NO SKILL.

You do not need talent, you do not need to be athletic.

All you need is that one thing you need to achieve all your goals in life: CONSISTENCY. 

Literally all you have to do to achieve your fitness goals is to be consistent.  


All those people that you see on instragram, posting in the mirror: The guys with their bicep pics, the girls with their squats and butt pics. They have the courage to that because they achieved consistency!

They went to the gym 3 times or more a week and EARNED the body they wanted. 

And what did that new body and gym success bring them? A higher self-confidence and self-image.

So if all you need is consistency to achieve something that great... guess what? ANYONE can do it.

Anyone can be a gym success. ANYONE can earn a higher self-confidence and self-image. 

Exercise and the gym is the perfect way to make yourself feel better about yourself. The perfect activity to do in between the grind, the ambition, the countless hours of working toward your ultimate goal.

If you are a beginner, and very out of shape...walk on the treadmill at a very high incline. You will not over-work yourself, but you will sweat, and you will work off the pounds. Combine that with eating well, and of course....consistency, and you can achieve anything!

ANYONE can be a gym success.. and then....ANYONE can reap the benefits of being physically fit. 

 7) Meet People who ALREADY have what you want.   

Like I always say: Everyone wants to be something BETTER, something BIGGER.

Everyone has one specific purpose in life. Everyone has one true talent. Everyone has one thing they can do for the rest of their lives and BE HAPPY.

Figure out your talents. Figure out our passions. Figure out your goals. 


 Find that person who already has what you want. Find that person that has already achieved what you are ready to work so hard for. Find them, and GET their contact information. 

Do anything you can to contact them. Phone number, Facebook, Linked-In. ANYTHING. You must have a correspondence with this individual.

Then what?

You introduce yourself to that person professionally. Let them know who you are, where you come from, what you want to accomplish and why. DO NOT TAKE NO FOR ANSWER.

You must build a relationship with this person at any cost.  You will NEED them.

If you really want to accomplish your goals, you should have a long list of questions for this person. You should ask them each and every one. And you must make sure you get detailed answers. 

Always be professional. Always be courteous.  This person will be a role model, and you will be the apprentice. 

This person will end up being one of the first people you thank when you become successful and you have achieved your dreams. 

Meet them. Network with them. Learn from them. Train with them. Shadow them. Learn how to GROW from them.

Find this person and prepare to Grow NOW.

8)  NO Drug Use

Let's be honest again: why do people take drugs?

To escape reality. 

When you get bored and there is nothing fun to do? You smoke weed
When you get bored and you need to a pick me up? You do cocaine
When you get bored and you need to have more energy? You do molly, ecstasy, etc.
When you get bored and you need to feel more relaxed? You take painkillers.

What is the common theme here: boredom.  

Boredom is a very interesting thing.

I believe boredom is very closely tied with immaturity. 
When I hear someone say "I'm bored," immaturity is what I immediately think.  

This world is filled with pleasures. Filled with fun things to do to better yourself. 

There is NO EXCUSE to be bored in this world. ESPECIALLY if you are working toward a goal.

If you are working toward a goal of advancing your life. You should RARELY have free time.

You should be researching, reading, shadowing, practicing...Learning as often as you can.

Just like Malcolm Gladwell described in his book Outliers: you must work relentlessly to become a master at you trade.

Gladwell: "Researchers have settled on what they believe is the magic number for true expertise: 10,000 hours."

10,000 hours?? When will you have time to do drugs? 

You should be too busy working. 

Also - there is no better way to earn to earn the great distraction of fake friends than to do drugs.

When you start doing drugs - take a step back and observe. You may notice that you have begun hanging out with a lot more people. You may start to feel good because all of sudden, you have a lot more friends.


These people are not your friends. They do not like you for who you are. 

They like you because you do the same drug they do.

So congrats, you have a new set of fake friends AND you are doing drugs.

You have begun to truly conform, and the true person you were meant to become is really melting away. 

Don't  let this happen to you. Talk to people who already do the drug you are thinking about. Ask them: "If you could go back in time and never even try that drug to begin with, would you?"

Chances are they will say yes I would never even start.

LEARN from their mistake. Don't even start. Stay YOU. Become YOU. Become the BEST YOU.

Achieve your dreams. When you have the career, money, and home you always dreamed of, you will be happy you made these little small choices that were absolutely CORRECT.


Thank you so much for reading. I cannot tell you how much it means to me. 

If one person reads this and changes their life for the better, I will be the happiest man alive.

I want you ALL to Grow NOW, and have what you always dreamed of.

Please leave your comments and let me know what you think.

Coming soon: The Final 2 Steps to complete the 10-Step Life Cleanse.




Friday, June 26, 2015

The Grow NOW Chinese Proverb

There is an old Chinese proverb that reads:

"The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now."

This sums up what Grow NOW is all about. 

We all make mistakes. We all learn from our experiences, failures, and downfalls. 

If we could all go back in time knowing what we know now...we would be so much wiser and do things so much more efficiently. 

But we CAN'T.

Do not waste your time getting hung up in the past and living in hindsight. 

With the right perspective, you can achieve anything. 

Refuse to Give Up, and Grow NOW.

Thursday, June 25, 2015

The Grow NOW Life Cleanse

My goal with this blog is to simply inspire others. I want to help others begin to achieve their dreams as quickly as possible.

Because as we all know: Time waits for no one.

One of the great conundrums of human life is the incredibly strong emotion of hindsight combined with an immense obsession of the past.

One important quote I learned, which I will always remember is "Hindsight is always 20/20."

At one point in all of our lives, we will all think to ourselves: "If I could go back in time, knowing what I know now, I would do things so much better, and make much smarter decisions."

I can absolutely say this about my life. One thing I always tell myself (quite frankly to make myself feel better) is that "I have learned from so many mistakes, I became a genius."

Today, I believe that I am a man that is confident in my decisions and in my future. But make no mistake, this a step I have only taken very recently. For 27 years, I was a lost soul, a loner, a follower. Somebody who cared more about having friends than progressing my own life and making myself happy.

I missed out on hundreds of opportunities to advance my life and career. I missed out on becoming friends with quality people. I missed out on spending important time with my family. I missed opportunities to travel and see new things. I missed opportunities to attain wisdom and gain new skills and talents.

After I graduated with my bachelor's degree, I had no choice but to work dead-end undesirable jobs. I had never put enough focus and effort into my life. Instead of being in a field that I love and working toward my career directly after college, I was stuck living a pathetic life while accomplishing nothing. My future did not look bright. I was a college graduate that had no idea what my passion was, what my purpose was.

All because I cared about pleasing others.

All because I cared too much about what people thought of me.

All because I cared too much about "fitting in."

But I tell ya...If I could go back in time knowing what I know now.....


It took me 27 years to finally Grow NOW. It took me 27 years to finally realize what is truly important.

Success is what happens to you when and if you survive all your mistakes.

I learned from so many mistakes, I became a genius.

It was not until I finally cleansed my life of several toxins that I truly started to live. These toxins were distractions, negative things that held my life back and caused me to not be myself, and not be happy.

What good is a life if a person can never be themselves? It is truly one of the saddest things a person can do.


I am a huge fan of both Mastin Kipp of "The Daily Love" and Brendan Burchard of "The Charged Life"
Please check out their work here:

Both of these two men have successfully written about how to make the most of your life. Their writing is beautiful, moving, and fun to read. There are things both of them write about that I agree and disagree with. Just like me, both of these two men have dealt with periods of extreme stress due to simple mistakes and not perceiving life properly. They used spirituality and love to overcome the odds.

I have always been blessed with the ability to connect with others and build meaningful relationships. I have always been a loyal friend, and I will always try to do whatever I can do help another person.

I have created this blog to help make sure that others can learn from my mistakes.

I call the blog "Grow NOW" because that is the goal: growing NOW, growing today, no longer wasting another moment. Grow into the person you are supposed to be TODAY. Change your life for the better TODAY, so that you can have the life that you want TOMORROW.

I have said it before, and I will always say it: ANYONE Can Be Great. ANYONE.

It is usually a simple set of decisions and life choices that hold an individual back from achieving their dreams. Decisions that can easily be changed. Simple misconceptions about what is truly important, simple values, simple time management.

When I had finally had enough, and I was going through the process of changing my life for the better, I wrote down my thoughts and emotions. I took note of what I had to do to make these changes.

And I created the Grow NOW Life Cleanse. Just like with everything else I post in this blog, I want to share this with you, in hopes that you can learn from it. If you can read this Life Cleanse, and even change one little thing about your life that brings about a positive change, then I am a happy man. I hope this Life Cleanse inspires you, and motivates you to analyze your own life and figure out why you haven't achieved your goals yet.

Without change, everything stays the same. Take a quick break and take a look at yourself and where you are at. Yes, you may be happy and comfortable where you are. But I know, you still have dreams to be something better....something bigger. And why can't you achieve that?

Some may say you can't. You may even be telling yourself that right now. But I am here to tell you, you can! You can Grow NOW.

If you want change, you must start the change. Step out of your comfort zone and have the strength to make sacrifices and do things differently.

Are you up to the challenge? Are you willing to do what it takes to Grow NOW?

The 10-Step Grow NOW Life Cleanse

The First 5 Steps

1) Adopt a Permanent Positive Perspective (3P).
In all motivational reading you will find, you will read about the power of perspective. Perspective is everything! There are few things more powerful in this world, and few things more underrated and undervalued.

In life, we must only worry about the things we can control. What can we control? Our own decisions. No matter how much we try, we can not control other people's decisions, actions, or thoughts.

All people will eventually be hurt by another person. All of us have had our feelings hurt, our hearts broken. In the moment, it will be hard to see, but if somebody goes out of their way to hurt your feelings, it says a lot more about how they feel about themselves then how they feel about you. Hurt people hurt people.

See? Its all about perspective. Will you take the perspective that someone hurt you because there is something wrong with you, or will you believe that this individual simply has a problem with themselves?

We all also make mistakes that affect our lives. We can either dwell on the mistake, forget it, or learn from it. This is also all about perspective. Do you have the emotional intelligence to analyze yourself to try and figure out why you made that mistake? Are you willing to make a change to ensure that mistake doesn't happen again? It is all about perspective.

In life, you get what you give. If you emanate positivity, you will get positivity. Thinking positive is something you will always hear successful athletes talk about. During that one season when Tim Tebow was tearing up the NFL, creating edge-of-your-seat action in the fourth quarter during "Tebow Time", he always talked about thinking positive. Every interview he was in, he mentioned how he always tries to think positive. Thinking positive got him all the way to the second round of the playoffs, all with "below-average" quarterback talent.

There is truly something positive to take away from every single situation you will ever encounter in life. Even the most difficult times will make you stronger.

A positive perspective is synonymous with faith and love. Two things that are essential to a happy life. 

On the road to achieving your dreams, you will need to take many scary risks and you will most certainly encounter obstacles and failures. Staying positive will allow you to keep going, gain resiliency, and ultimately achieve that goal.

Adopting a positive perspective will change your life forever. It is not always easy to do, but simply being aware of it, and making a conscious effort to keep it positive can make a world of difference.

Adopting a Permanent Positive Perspective is the essential Step 1 in the Grow NOW Life Cleanse.

2) Maintain Only True Friendships - Eliminate Fake Friends

I have discussed the importance of this in previous blog posts.

Another major misconception in life is the belief that the more friends you have, the better the person you are. This all begins in the school-age years with that imaginary thing we all loved called "popularity."

There is a fact that all people need to realize: there are a lot of people on this earth that are not "good people." There are people that are not compassionate, lazy, judgmental, and have very poor "theory of mind." They cannot image what life is like in another person's shoes. They would rarely or never do something for someone else unless it also benefits them. Some people would rather watch TV then do something that would make you happy.

These are what you call "Fake Friends." In order to truly cleanse your life, you must eliminate these people from you life.

Surround yourself with people who care about you, motivate you, and want to see you succeed.

Anyone who does not, simply should not have the pleasure of being in your life.

But if you eliminate friends, won't you be bored and have too much free time?

Well... by keeping a positive perspective, I would say that you have now gained more quality time to research your passions, attain wisdom, get to work, and start Growing NOW.

3) Create a Renewed Importance on Family Love

This aspect of the Life Cleanse is different for all people. All individuals have different family structures and values.

There is no doubt that family is one of the most important things in a person's life, quite possibly the most important.

Family is the true definition of unconditional love. For most people...nobody will ever love you more than your Mother and Father.

Few people will support you in your goals more than your parents. This is why maintaining a renewed sense of love with your family is essential for a Life Cleanse.

There are many people out there who do not have the typical family structure I just described.

There are many successful people who became successful despite not having parents who support them, or even having their parents at all.

For individuals who have this situation, know that with the right perspective and ambition, it can make you truly strong and resilient.

The importance of a supportive network cannot be underestimated. I believe that as long as you have one person in your life who supports you, listens to you, and is there for you when you need them, that is truly all you need. When you start doing what you love and following your passions, you will meet more people just like you, and you will have a true network of people who are worthy of your time. You have what is takes to Grow NOW.

4) Create A Sanctuary

Relentless ambition is a necessity to achieve your wildest dreams. People today who now make their own hours, travel the world, and own exquisite homes once worked day and night relentlessly. They sacrificed sleep and fun to work and master their trade. They did not care what others were doing, and they certainly did not care what others thought. They wanted to be an outlier. They wanted to be different. The refused to be ordinary. They decided to Grow NOW.

I believe that all people who are ready to Grow NOW, must have a place where they feel safe. They must have a place where they are willing and ready to work countless hours. This place must keep distractions to a minimum so that there is tunnel vision toward to ultimate goal.

Having your own personal Sanctuary helps to grow success.

Often times, this is a room with a desk. For others, it may be a bed. It could be a coffee shop or library. To each his own.

Find that one place where you are able to work and nobody can stop you.

Find that one place where you won't care what is going on in the world around you, for you know what you are doing there is more important.

This is the place where you become the architect for your future. This is the place where you become an artist while you paint the picture you of your future life. This is the place where you become the author of the best story ever told.

One day you will be a success, and you can return to this sanctuary in an emotional reunion. Only you will understand how important this space is to you. You will owe everything to what happened in this room. Moments you will never forget.

5) Stop Letting Social Media Waste Your Valuable Time

Facebook. Instagram. Twitter. Pinterest. To only name a few.

Social media is not just "a thing" anymore. It is a way of life.

Instead of waking up and reading the news, people now log on to Facebook and read their "news feed."

At the end of the day, it is just a way of keeping up with other people's lives. 

If you believe a Life Cleanse will benefit you, what is going on in other people's lives is not important.

You do not need to know what other people's lunch look liked. You do not need to know people's opinions on their local sports teams or favorite Netflix show. You do not need to know what bar people went to last night.

If you take a step back and analyze, you will see that 99% of the material you pick up and learn from social media is useless. It will not benefit you in anyway.

If you are working toward an ultimate goal and trying to achieve your dreams, you do not have time to waste. You do not have time to be catching up with other peoples lives via the internet.

While you are working hard, grinding, and becoming a master at your trade, there is no need to constantly tell people how your doing and how hard you are working. There is no need to update your status, and rub it in other people's faces.

What is most important is what goes down behind the scenes. One day, you can emerge a new man/woman. You can show everyone that you are a new person, a better person. You can build true relationships in person, instead of over the internet.

I must say that social media can have some benefits in terms of networking. There are several Facebook groups that are helpful for learning and achieving goals. There are also positive ways to market via social media.

If social media is used for the betterment of your goals, then I am all for it. 

If not, I recommend you stop logging-on, and you get to work. Stop saying I am going to get started tomorrow or next week. Start today! No more excuses. Get off social media, start today and Grow NOW.


Thank you for reading. Please comment and let me know your thoughts!

Stay tuned for the final 5-Steps!

Grow NOW!


Monday, June 22, 2015

Grow NOW: "The Life Cleanse"

My ultimate goal with this blog is to inspire others. Just like in my main image to the right, I want people to say "because of you I didn't give up."

All my life I have always tried to inspire and motivate others, especially my close friends. What I have learned is that some people are willing to take the necessary steps, and others simply are not.

However, as I talked about in my very first post, there is something very serious that I believe in. I sincerely believe that ANYONE Can Be Great.

I do not care who you are, where you came from, what race you are, what religion you are. ANYONE can be great. Race and religion are human-made ideologies. The fact of the matter is we live in a world comprised of individuals. 

Every person is unique in their own specific way. Each person can do one thing better than everyone else. Every person has their own unique talents, perspectives, beliefs, and strengths.

I believe this will all my heart. I learned this through experience. I have learned a great deal from observing others. There is nothing I enjoy more than meeting new people. To me, each person is like a new book, and they are the author. They create new chapters, twists, turns, and endings each day.

Our life is simply a matter of two things:
1) The decisions we make 2) Our perspective on each thing we encounter.

Like I said earlier, each individual makes their own decisions, and each individual has their own unique perspective. However, it is these decisions and perspectives that will determine the course of our life, and will ultimately decide if you succeed in your goals and dreams.

In my life. I have seen successes and I have seen failures. There is no common aspect of these people who succeed in terms of race, religion, or starting socioeconomic status. And of course, people fail at their dreams and remain ordinary for a multitude of reasons. it is:
For people who succeed: it is due to their conscious effort to perfect their decisions and have consistent positive perspective. 

Our everyday decisions and our personal perspective on each of life's events will determine our futures. To achieve your wildest dreams: to finally land your dream job, make the amount of money that you want to make, live in the house you want to live must PERFECT your decisions and your perspectives.

I would be the happiest man alive, if just ONE person read this blog, learned to perfect their decisions and perspectives, and achieved their dreams. The events of my life brought me to this step. I was born to motivate. I was born to help others. I have been through hell and back. I have been from bottom of the barrel to finally getting my Master's Degree in a field I love. I have met tons of people that are literally oozing with potential.

EVERYONE is oozing with potential.  It is simply just a matter of the SIMPLE decisions and perspectives that we make each day.

To help my readers understand this simple, yet complex idea, I have created "The Life Cleanse."

The Life Cleanse is used to cleanse your life of distractions.

We live in a world FULL of distractions.

There are way more distractions in this world today than there were even 5 years ago.

There is one word used to describe people that have learned to perfectly rid their life of distractions: SUCCESSFUL.

Distractions are all around us. There are things in your life that are a major distraction, that you do not even realize. Basically, ANYTHING that keeps you from achieving your dream and Growing NOW is a distraction.

Distractions are simple and complex. They are different for each person.

Distractions become a problem when our decisions and our perspectives allow them to be.

There are those two words again: decisions and perspective.

Everyone on this earth has dreams. Everyone on this earth wants to be something better...something bigger.

And like I will always say....ANYONE can be great.


Are you willing to pay the price? Are you willing to make the necessary sacrifices?

If you want to be successful: You must cleanse your life of distractions.

You must have tunnel vision toward you goals. You must become the best at what you want to do.

You must become a MASTER at your given trade. You must do the necessary research, reading, shadowing, volunteering, and give it your ALL.

ANYTHING that keeps you from doing those things is a DISTRACTION.

Rid of life of distractions. Focus wholehearedly on your goal. Work with strong ambition. ACHIEVE your dreams.

In the next few posts, I will discuss specific common distractions that many people encounter and reveal The Life Cleanse.

Identify your distractions and ELIMINATE THEM.

Cleanse your life of distractions and Grow NOW.

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Charleston: Only Love Can Drive Out Hate

By now, we all know the horrible tragedy that took place in Charleston, South Carolina.

Yet again in this country, another senseless act of violence, carried out with guns, against innocent and defenseless people.

What took place in that church is utterly heartbreaking.

What is taking place now with the families, friends, and community of Charleston is utterly amazing.

At the sentencing hearing, the evil killer was placed in the same room with all of the victim's families. He had to listen to them speak, and had to look at the sadness on all of their faces.

And what did these families decide to do? Forgive and Praise God.

A daughter of a victim said, "I will never be able to hold her again, but I forgive you," "And have mercy on your soul. You hurt me. You hurt a lot of people but God forgives you, and I forgive you."

This young woman, and countless others whose lives were changed forever that day at the hands of pure evil, decided to stay true to their religion, their faith in God, stand tall, and forgive.

Today, June 21st, the first Sunday since this this horrible crime, the church held its first service. It was packed with loyal families who praised God with passion.

These people of Charleston are an absolute inspiration. In my personal opinion, one of the greatest Americans of all time is Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., for all he did for the civil rights movement, women's right, his love for religion, and also the anti-war moment in Vietnam. 

These people are following in his footsteps and using his powerful words to overcome this evil. They are using LOVE to drive out hate. And the way in which they are doing it is amazing. These people deserve the highest of praises from the entire nation. 

The way in which these families, this community, has responded to such a heinous act is something we are all blessed to witness. To be so strong, remain so faithful, and continue to be so true to what they believe in is something we can ALL strive to be.

We live in a country where political power is closely tied into the interest of large corporations and the power of the dollar. After the atrocious actions of what happened in Newtown, there were ZERO changes made to the gun laws in this country. If nothing happened after that evil event, it is hard to see any change ever happening. Jon Stewart said it best when he said, "I am confident we are going to do jack shit about this." The NRA has too many political ties, as they fund political parties. Whether you like Obama or not, what he said is a fact: "This type of violence does NOT happen in other advanced countries." Go look at crime in England. Nobody has guns there. Their police do not even have guns. Here in America, we are constantly having mass shootings. 

Politics aside, I am sure these families know that hope for changes to gun laws is a bit far-fetched in this country. Yet, they remain loving, strong, and together.

We can ALL learn from these families in Charleston. In the face of horrible pain, evil, and loss, they remain strong and true to their faith.

Just as MLK said - "The time is always right, to do what is right."

They are not going to let this horrible act destroy their beliefs. They are going to continue to love and forgive. Because "hate is too great a burden to bear."

One way to ensure you Grow NOW, is to make sure you learn something new everyday and you never stop growing. There is no peak or plateau. There is ALWAYS room to be a better person, ALWAYS. As human beings, we must strive to attain wisdom. There are few things more important than attaining wisdom. We must learn each day, from our experiences and surroundings.

This situation in Charleston and the actions of this community is a beautiful thing to learn from. These families are a true inspiration. Their actions are utterly amazing. They continue to love, for they know love is the answer, and love is the only way to drive out hate.

"The ultimate measure of a man, is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

Do not ignore what is happening down in Charleston. Be a witness to the amazing character of these individuals who have shown resiliency and true will. Learn from these people and allow them to inspire you. For they have inspired me, and I must make sure that I never forget it.

Happy Father's Day!

Happy Father's Day to all the Father's out there!

Fathers make up 1/2 of the great role models we have.  

Children don't follow their Father's word, they follow their Father's actions. 

To all the Father's that teach their children about great moral character, hard work, ambition, and the importance of education and surrounding yourself with the right people....


Thursday, June 18, 2015


Tough Times Create Tough Individuals

Keep Calm...and Do Everything

Keep Calm and Carry On?


But do more than that! Life your life!

The ability to be calm is underestimated. It is synonymous with confidence and faith. 

Some would say calmness is the end result of confidence and faith.

Confidence + Faith = Calm Living

Why faith? Because God will never give you anything that you cannot handle.

When things look worse then ever, you are being set-up for something great. In the moment, it will seem like you are blind to this. The overwhelming emotions of a negative event are all-consuming, stressful, debilitating, and often tragic. 

Some people go through difficult times, and it completely changes their lives. Depending on the degree and severity of the event, some individuals become just like zombies. They cannot eat, they cannot socialize, they certainly cannot work. They completely forget their goals and thoughts of the future. They bask in their thoughts of how difficult things are. They may ask themselves questions like:

How could I be so stupid?

Why did this happen to me?

What am I going to do now?

There is no hope for me.

But I trusted those people. 

I don't deserve this.

Hardships prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny. - C.S. Lewis

In my life, I have been unemployed and lost jobs that I loved and worked night and day to attain and maintain. The day I lost these jobs are days I will never forget. In the days, weeks, and months after, I was terrified, disillusioned, and lost. There were times I thought this was the end for me, and I had no hope for my future. I thought I would end up working low-end cheap jobs for the rest of my life. Would I even be able to get another job? I didn't even know.

I was a lost soul. I felt I wasn't worthy of any friendships. I wasn't worthy of the love and support my family continued to give me. I was a loser who couldn't even keep a job. 

I had bills to pay, and apartment to keep. I always had lofty goals for the future. How could I ever achieve them now?

It was calmness, confidence, and FAITH that got me through this extremely difficult times. 

I worked day and night to perfect my resume, build connections, and research openings. I was persistent with endless ambition. Through online job sites, I applied to over 2,000 jobs. I called places that I had applied to, to check the status of my application. I spent less times with my friends, and worked alone, at my desk with my computer, to make sure that I would get out of this mess. 

It was calmness, confidence and FAITH that gave me the power to proceed. 
It was relentless ambition and persistence that brought a complete end to the bad times. 

I ended up getting new employment within a month. Through this new employment, I was able to learn about, observe, and work closely with Speech-Language Pathologists. I was able to see first-hand how these professionals helped to increase the confidence of the children they worked with. I immediately went to the local college to learn about their program and find out how I can become a Speech Pathologist. I was told I would basically have to get a second bachelors degree to even apply to the graduate program, which is quite competitive. 

I told myself I was going to do it. 

I did it. This May, I complete my graduate coursework and attained my Master's Degree. Something I could only dream of in the years before. 

When I lost my previous jobs, I thought my chances for a bright future were long gone. 

Little did I know, I was being set-up for something greater.

Think of the some of the successful adults that you know. 

What did they go through in their lives? Was everything all puppies and rainbows?


Pain doesn't show up in our lives for no reason.

----> It is a SIGN that something needs to change. 

And I am telling you, that because of what you will go through during this difficult time...that change WILL happen.

The only question is: will that change remain? 

We have all heard that consistency is the key to success. If you go to the gym once a month, nothing happens. If you go 5 days a week for a month, you get stronger and the change is noticeable. 

You WILL change into a better person because of a difficult, stressful, or tragic experience.

However, it is up to YOU if that change persists, and you continue to change your life for the better.

There is only so much a person can learn through school and education. Here, we learn the basics to build us up to have a career and contribute to society.

However --> we learn the most in life through experiences. 

It is our experiences that teach us the most about the person we need to become. What we need to do to live a happy life. 

How we properly interact with others. How to help others. Who to surround ourselves with. What beliefs we want to subscribe to. 

It is these life experiences that teach us the most about lives. Both the good and the bad, that build us into the grown mature adults we hopefully become. 

After rain comes sun. Difficult times breed great individuals. 

Every person on this earth goes through periods of depression, self-doubt, and stress.

As long as a calm and faithful perspective is maintained...YOU CANNOT BE STOPPED.

"Cause sometimes you just feel tired,
Feel weak, and when you feel weak, you feel like you wanna just give up.
But you gotta search within you, you gotta find that inner strength
And just pull that shit out of you and get that motivation to not give up
And not be a quitter, no matter how bad you wanna just fall flat on your face and collapse." - Eminem

When nothing is going right, and everything seems like it can't be done. REFUSE TO GIVE UP.

Refuse to Give Up, and Grow NOW.

Keep Calm and Carry On? No

Keep Calm and Grow NOW.

Monday, June 15, 2015

Merriam-Webster will not have a definition this spot-on

Life-Cleanse: Friendship

I am sure you have all heard of people doing juice cleanses. I am sure of this because it is impossible for somebody to do a juice cleanse without talking about it and posting pictures on social media.

Social media is just another one of life's distractions which I will discuss later.

However, as we get older, we will learn the importance of a life cleanse .

There are much healthier and more productive ways to cleanse your life and start to move toward living the life you have always pictured and desired. There are several different things you can do to make sure you Grow NOW.

In my last post, I discussed friendship. In my opinion, friendship is one of the most 
misinterpreted, mis-valued, stressful, and confusing aspects of our lives. 

We are born into our families. Families are the picture and definition of unconditional love. However, we are around them so much during our early lives that we become conditioned to their love (which is ironic because their love is unconditional and never-ending). We learn to ignore their word, their advice, their care, and their wishes...even though there is nobody on this earth that wants to see you succeed more than them. 

It is our friendships, that we allow to define us throughout our lives.

We have all heard the phrase, "You are only as good as the people you surround yourself with."

This will always be true.

Friends come into our lives in a myriad of ways. Some you will meet at school, others through sports or clubs. If you happen to begin smoking weed, you will instantly make several new "friends" (this will be a topic to be discussed later).

Friendship is a relationship that needs to start being defined me thoroughly. Many of us tend to spend more times with our friends than our families or our significant others. If you are going to spend such a great amount of time with one individual, it is important for your to recognize the impact they are having on your life.

When you become close friends with someone, you are immersed in their routines, sense of humor, interests, and most importantly: ambition and work ethic.

One many part of a friendship is reliance and reliability. When making plans with a friends, you will often find yourself "on their watch." This is something, you must have the emotional intelligence to recognize.

Is this friend worth this sacrifice? Would they be willing to do the same thing for you?

I know that you have hopes and dreams. I know you have amazing goals that will make you bigger and better than you currently are now.

And as you know, ANYONE CAN BE GREAT.

However, we live in a world full of distractions.

The people in this world who achieved their wildest dreams are the one who learned to ignore all distractions, and work relentlessly toward their goals.

These people are the Outliers that Malcolm Gladwell speaks about his book. For example, The Beatles ignored all distractions, and they would practice their music all day and throughout the night until they became the greatest musicians in the world. Power, fame, and fortune came next.

 There are many people out there who are not capable of being the compassionate, loving, helpful, and motivating friends that are needed in your life. These people are the distractions.

Like I said before, friendship needs to start being defined:

 ALL friends should motivate each other.

It is as simple as that. Are your friends helping you reach your goals? Do your friends make you a better person?

Friends should respect each others goals, give them the motivation they need to help them realize that they can achieve these goals. Friends should respect each others time and personal space. Friends should respect when their friends are too busy grinding and working super hard toward their overall goal.

Does this sound like your friends? If not, chances are your "friends" are holding you back more than you realize. You make need the begin a Life Cleanse.

Cleanse you life of these friends who are not helping you better yourself.

Oh but if you stop hanging out with them, you will be bored and lonely all the time?

I am here to say: SO WHAT

Spend your free time researching, reading, and working toward that overall goal.

Go out and network, volunteer, and work relentlessly toward what you want.

While doing those activities, you will find the right kind of friends, the ones that will stick around for a lifetime.

The ones that will help you Grow NOW.

Thursday, June 11, 2015

A Message from the great Ed Sheeran

True Friend or Something Else?

Only True Friends Allowed

1 TRUE Friend

Your Family and Friends

We have all heard the phrase, "Good Friends are Hard to Come By."

There are few quotes more true to life.

When we are born, we are given our family. Our God-given family. Of course, unlike friends, it is impossible to choose your family members. Our family is with us from the very beginning. They are instrumental in teaching us how to talk, walk, eat, and how to properly live in this world. Without them we would be truly lost.

However, the great amounts of time we spend with our families is both a blessing and a curse. We tend to be around our parents so much that we become conditioned to their presence and their word. That Mother who just nags you too much. That Father who is just always getting on your case. They are older, they are from a different generation. There is no way they can possibly understand what I am going through. Right? 


There is nobody who understands you more. There is nobody that wants to see you succeed more than them. 

As children and young adults, we spend immense amounts of time focusing on our friendships. We believe that it is our friendships, not our family bonds, that define us. Throughout those strange years of elementary, middle, and high school, we want as many friends as possible. We want to be busy after school and on the weekends, not sitting at home with our families. 

After the party and fun years of college, around the age of 22, "the real world" finally hits. For many of us, it will be the first time that we work full-time and become immersed in the type of life we will have for the next several decades. 

It is during this time when the past truly starts to fade away. Stressful times from high school or college that once seemed like "the end of the world" are now a distant insignificant memory. You will most likely lose contact with the vast majority of your friends from those time periods. If it wasn't for Facebook and social media, that number would surely increase. 

But you may wonder: 
Shouldn't true friendships last?

The answer is YES.

All true friendships should last a lifetime, or pretty damn close to it. 

When two people become good close friends, it is a very special part of your life. 

Friendships are vital to a healthy upbringing to create a well-rounded, respectful, and socially adequate individual.

However there is criteria for a true friendship. There is a MAJOR difference between friends, acquaintances, and two people who are just stuck together. 

All true friendships are 50/50. The two individuals must truly care for one another. This care should be seen most often through inspiration and motivation. 

A true friend should always want his/her friends to SUCCEED! 

A true friend does not like seeing their friend hurt, upset, or wasting away. A true friend will always try to make sure their friend reaches their full potential and  takes full advantage of their strengths. 

This goes for both males and females. Often times it is difficult for men to be compassionate toward their friends. However, in the case of a true friendship, there are no excuses. If you care for someone, and you want them to be your friend for the rest of your life, you will need to show emotion, be compassionate, make personal sacrifices, and go out of your way to make their life more enjoyable. 

But I am here to tell you, especially all you younger people out there....
Good friends are hard to come by.

As you get older, you will inevitably learn that friendships fade away over time. The vast majority do NOT stand true to the test of time. No matter how hard you worked, how much you cared, what you personally did...if that friendship was not 50/50 it will NOT last over time!


Because life inevitably catches up with you. Time waits for no one.

Life will eventually catch up with you. Eventually you will need to work 40hrs a week and pay your own bills. Eventually you will need to seriously date someone. Eventually you will get married and start a family of your own. 

You will no longer have time for someone that makes no time for you. No matter how much you personally care about them. 

Ask any individual over the age of 25: As you get older friendships fade away and die. 

And it is true that you are only as good as the people you surround yourself with. Take a look around at your 5 best friends. What kind of person are they? What does their future look like? Because they are the kind of person that you are. Their future looks a lot like yours. 

True friends are hard to come by. But I am here to tell you, all you really need is one. Do not stress yourself out thinking that you need over 10 friends to live a happy life. Why waste time spending your life with people who do not even truly care about you? People that are totally unwilling to bend over backwards for a friend. People that have a horrible "theory of mind" and can not picture or even care to picture what life is like in your shoes.

Spend your life with people who love you and care about you. Friends that make sacrifices and go out their way to make you a happy person. Friends that inspire you, motivate you, to be the best person you can possibly be. 

You will always have your family, who will always love you and care about you no matter what. That is one of the greatest, if not the greatest, blessing of a lifetime.

But we are also given the gift to choose our friends. But good friends are hard to come by...

However they are out there. Good people are out there. Just do not waste your time with people who don't really care about you, don't want to see you succeed, and don't see you in their future. 

It is better to have 1 true friend than 20 regular friends. And you deserve that true friend. That true friend that wants to see you achieve your dreams. That true friend who you want to have in your life forever, who will succeed right there with you. 

Please, don't waste your life with the wrong people. There are so many more beneficial ways to spend your time. You can exercise, learn more about your passion, make money, learn a new hobby, travel the world, play a sport, go back to school, join a club, read a book SPEND TIME WITH FAMILY! 

If you are willing to give your all to a friend to make them feel special and let them know how happy you are to have then in your life...then you 100% deserve a true friend. Until you find one, spend your time bettering yourself doing the things I listed above. You will find your true friend while doing the activities that you me.

True friends are hard to come by. Don't waste your time with the wrong people. Make yourself a better person each day. While doing that, you will find someone on the same mission as you. Someone with the same ideals and mindset as you. 

That is how a true friendship begins. One that will last a lifetime. 

Do you surround yourself with the right people? Do your friends allow you to Grow NOW?